I have this friend, and she recently realized that she is attracted to both women and men. Sexuality isn't something she has ever had to consider because she never had a reason to, she just assumed that she was straight to fall in with 'social norms'.
When she accepted this fact, she also realized she was falling in love with her best friend. But the question that came next was.. What now?
Well, it would help with starting with what sexuality is.
Sexuality is who you are attracted to and who fall in love with.
Most people know what the LGBT community is.
But these are just general terms of the community.
A better name for the LGBT community would be LGBT+ because there is so much more than the 4 sexualities in the name.
Lesbian/Gay are at one end of the spectrum while straight is at the other end. But what about those of us that fall somewhere in the middle of the spectrum?
Bisexuality falls in the middle of the spectrum, but there's so many other sexualities you could identify with.
Pansexuals are another sexuality in the middle of the spectrum, and pansexuals don't see gender as a significant role in who they fall in love with.
These are the two main sexualities in the middle of the spectrum, but there is so much more.
Some of us might not even fall on the spectrum.
Aces and aro's sometimes consider themselves off the grid.
Asexuals don't get pleasure out of sexual activity. That's not to say none of them ever have sex. Plenty of people have sex to benefit the other party, they just don't find particular enjoyment from it.
Aromantics don't find romantic relationship with people, just like the opposite of asexuals.
Another sexuality that falls on the middle of the spectrum but goes unnoticed by many is demisexual. People who identify as demisexual find attraction only after forming an emotional connection with a person.
These few sexualities don't even begin to touch on the amount of sexualities one could identify as. And truth is, you don't have to label yourself with a sexual orientation at all.
When a person is questioning who they are and who they want to be with that is outside of the social norms, they have to go through the coming out process.
More times than not, people will come out to their friends before they come out to their families. A lot of this comes from fear of not being accepted. Most of our parents come from a more closed minded generation and aren't as accepting of people who stray out of the social norms, while our peers come from a generation of more diversity and more acceptance.
Coming out can be a nerve racking experience but often times its relieving not having to hide who you are.
If someone close to you comes out to you, it is not your job to out them. Outing someone is when another person tells someone that doesn't know about their sexuality their sexuality, and it happens maliciously and accidentally. It's never okay, and can seriously harm some people.
Just remember that if the person who came out to you hasn't said anything to anyone else, there's a reason and it is not your place to out them for them.
On a side note, I'm going to start posting weekly or biweekly every Sunday!