Too many people question this. So let's start with this, what is rape?
Rape: sexual penetration without consent.
Okay, so most of us know this. But where the lines become blurred in society is what exactly is consent?
Consent is ONLY an enthusiastic yes.
Consent is NOT silence.
Consent is NOT absence of a no.
Consent is NOT able to be given when the victim is unconscious.
Consent is NOT able to be given when the victim is mentally handicapped.
Consent is NOT being too afraid to say no.
Again, consent is ONLY an enthusiastic yes!
Now, you didn't fight back. Was it still rape? YES. Often, people don't react in the moment because they go into shock. People don't fight back other times because of their own personal safety. If you were threatened if you were to fight back or yell for help, you might have just listened. Looking out for your safety is what you needed to do, and that doesn't make you're abuse any less real. If you didn't want to have sex with your abuser, and you didn't say YES, that is rape.
It's been years since I was raped, but Im just now ready to speak up. Do I have a case?
YES. The abuse still happened, and you still have a case. Some states have laws on how long you can wait to press charges, but some don't. So just check out your state laws.
However, it's never too late to get mental help, which is what many people are searching for. If it has been 30 years and you're just now struggling with your rape and how it's affecting you, you can still get help. And I encourage you do.
One of the most important things to remember is that it wasn't your fault. You didn't ask to be raped. If you asked for it, that's called sex. It doesn't matter if you were in a mini skirt and tank top looking hot as hell, or if you were wearing sweats and a hoodie. You didn't ask for it. Again, if you asked for you, you had sex. It's never your fault. It's never too late to get help. And you are not alone. Stay strong and reach out. People care.